LADIES!! HOW TO GET A MARRIED MAN TO LEAVE HIS WIFE FOR YOU
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Oct 14, 2012
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1. Don't try to convince him or manipulate him to leave. Convincing or
manipulative behaviour never works in the long run. He has to figure it out for
himself. Even if he does act on your advice or pressure, he may resent you
later.
2. Treat yourself as the prize. By not falling into bed with him, you are
showing him that you are a woman who deserves respect and are marriage
material. Have your own life and interests. Hopefully you have interests in
common, which are things his wife doesn't enjoy. This makes you more attractive
to him.
3. Figure out what benefits he is getting from staying in the
marriage. Even
if he is unhappy, he is still getting something positive from the marriage or
from not breaking up. This could be access to his children, money (he is likely
scared of a divorce and losing half his income and property), emotional
support, reputation (makes him feel good to be a "family man"),
mutual friends, having someone to do stuff with (vacations, hobbies), her
cooking and cleaning, etc. There is no point in competing with the wife in
these areas. Don't make the mistake of wasting your time trying to be a better
"wife". Giving to him will push him away. Just know that you cannot
do anything about these facts and work on all the other steps, so that your
relationship with him will outweigh the benefits.
4. Figure out what his wife isn't doing right. Men need to feel
masculine. Most likely the wife has emasculated him over time, and therefore he
is no longer attracted to her. There are a lot of articles and books on what
this means. Do your homework to find out how to make him feel more masculine
(and you to feel more feminine). Admiring his masculine strengths and having
the polarity of your femininity is important. Wives who give too much, over
function, make all the decisions, work too hard at the relationship, take care
of everything in the marriage, and who don't know how to receive gratefully
what the man has to offer, start to assume the role of the man in the family.
This makes the husband feel bad about himself and he will start to look
elsewhere to validate his masculinity. That doesn't mean you should have sex
with him. Most likely he is still having sex with his wife (even though he will
tell you he is not), but he can do it without feeling anything deeply for her.
Having sex with him will not attract him to you. You need to give him all the
other things he needs to feel masculine and whole.
5. This means getting to know him as a person. Becoming friends and
having him confide in you takes patience. His roots with his wife go much
deeper than with you, so you need to take a long time to build up a good
relationship with him. He has to feel more than just physically attracted to
you. There needs to be an emotional bond with you. He needs to feel safe to
share his hopes, dreams, fears, emotions and insecurities with you, and know he
is still loved. Also, once you do get to know him as a person, you may discover
things about his character that you don't like and re-evaluate your decision as
to whether or not you want him at all.
6. Date others. Don't get hung up on him or too attached. Men like to compete.
But be careful not to discuss too much about your dating others with him. He
may ask, and you can reply vaguely, but it could do more damage if you appear
to be trying to make him jealous.
7. Don't be needy. Don't initiate contact, calls, texts, emails, etc. Let him
come to you on his own. He needs to do so on his own time and for his own
reasons. If he is not into you, you cannot make him love you. If you start
chasing and giving to him, he may selfishly take what you have to offer at
first, but eventually he will feel emasculated and pull away (just like he is
doing with his wife).
8. Don't be jealous of his wife or angry. It is good to feel
compassion for her. It is not her fault. Don't be insecure.
9. Don't become his therapist or marriage counsellor. Trying to help him get
over her, or solve his problems, will not attract him to you. Trying to
"fix" things is a masculine trait. He has to do it himself in his own
way.
10. Don't confront the wife. Telling her about you or her husband's infidelity will only
make him angry with you and destroy any future you have together. He knows best
how to deal with his wife and has to figure out his own way of leaving her. If
the wife finds out, they might end up in marriage counselling and back together
